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There are no longer any hard and fast
rules as to "Who Pays for What", but a general guideline follows as to
the traditional breakdown.
Working out a budget for your
wedding is one of the first things that should be done once the date is set.
Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of
course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set
in concrete. Who pays for what? Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no
longer so rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in
recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the
groom's family. Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of
their own, they are sharing in the expenses. Expense
Tipping has always been a personal
expression of gratitude for service given and appreciated. The question of
tipping those persons responsible for assisting you in your wedding planning is
one of obvious importance and concern.
Gratuities are almost always added
into the final bill, whether you have hired a private catering company or are
using one of the finest hotel facilities. The question has been asked,
"Is it proper to tip the servers, when I have already paid a gratuity in my
contracted price?" The answer is, of course, "tipping has
always been a personal expression of gratitude for service given and
appreciated." For instance, if a particular server has spent his
evening providing you service, over and above your expectations, and you choose
to give that individual a "tip," that choice is entirely up to you. It
should be given for extra special services only. It is not required, as the
gratuity has, as noted, already been paid. The customary amount would be
up to 15%.
Others falling into the above
category, include catering managers, hotel banquet managers, waiters,
waitresses, bartenders and bridal consultants. Tipping a hostess or captain
would fall in the 1% to 2% range. Remember, this has already been added to
your final bill and additional tipping is just that. Additional tipping!
Coat Room Attendants:
It is customary to give fifty cents per guest.
However, it may be to your advantage to arrange for a flat fee prior to the
A tip of 15% is the appropriate amount to be given to your limo driver. Be
sure to read your contract, as the tip has often already been added into the
Florists, Photographers, Bakers, Musicians:
Tipping only for extra special services, up to 15%.
Civil Ceremony Officials: (Judge, Justice
of the Peace, City Clerk)
In years gone by, it was considered improper to "ask" a set fee for
services rendered. However, today, you may find a "suggested" donation
for those in public service. In a recent survey, it was found the average
gratuity was between $50 and $75. If travel is involved, an additional
gratuity is expected.
Clergymen, Rabbis, Priests:
No less than a $75 donation is considered proper and
it is rare to find anyone giving less than a $100 gratuity for the wedding
officiate. This donation should be given to the best man prior to
the ceremony. Following the proceedings, he will then give it to the officiate.
If travel is involved, an additional gratuity is appreciated.
Organist and Musician:
Fees for church organists and musicians are often included in the rental fee for
the church. When this is not the case, a gratuity of no less than $35 is
appropriate, but in a recent survey, the average was $50 for each person. When
the organist and musician (soloist) are close friends of the couple or family,
the gratuity averaged $75.
Mother of the Groom
The following rules of etiquette are shared
to increase the joy and fulfill the traditional responsibilities of the mother
of the groom. Responsibilities include:
The first rule of etiquette to
be followed upon receiving news of the impending nuptials is to initiate
contact between the families. Introducing herself and her husband to the
bride's parents is her first responsibility. This may be as simple as
making a call to the bride's mother and telling her how happy she is about
the engagement or an informal invitation to dinner at their home. If
preferred, dinner at a nice restaurant is always in order. This may be with
or without the couple in attendance. If the parents live far away, a
friendly letter is appropriate. A snapshot of the family and maybe even one
of her son as a small child is always welcomed by the bride's mother and is
a kind gesture.
The importance of providing an
accurate and timely guest list can neither be over emphasized, nor the
importance of sticking to the guidelines given her as to the number of
guests she many invite. Remember to include zip codes.
It is the bride's mother who
will first select a dress for her daughters wedding. A gown of complimentary
color and similar styling is then chosen by the mother of the groom. She
must wear long if the bride's mother wears long or short if she wears short.
The color should not match the bridesmaids, nor the brides' mother, but
Reservations for out-of-town
guests, invited by the groom's family, are the responsibility of the mother
of the groom. It will be much more convenient if a block of rooms are
reserved at a nearby hotel, which is near her home.
It is the responsibility of the
groom's parents to host the rehearsal dinner. This can be as simple as a
salad potluck with paper plates in the backyard or as elaborate as an exotic
dinner with live entertainment in the finest restaurant. Everyone who
takes a part in the ceremony is invited to the dinner. It is proper
etiquette to invite the spouse or significant other of those participating,
and the parents of children in the wedding.
Scheduled family photographs,
prior to the wedding, will dictate the groom's parents time of arrival. If
photos are not scheduled to be taken before the ceremony, the arrival should
be no less than one hour before the appointed time
As the wedding begins, the
groom's mother will be escorted down the aisle, to the first pew, right-hand
side, by the head usher or a groomsman who is a family member. A nice
touch includes the groom escorting his mother down the aisle. As the groom's
mother is escorted to her seat, her husband will follow along behind.
However, if the parents are divorced, the father of the groom will have been
seated previously, two pews behind the mother.
The role as mother of the groom,
in the ceremony, may include lighting the family candle on the altar, along
with the mother of the bride. Family candles are lit after the candle
lighters have left the altar area, and prior to the entrance of the wedding
The first official duty of the
mother of the groom, during the reception is to stand in the receiving line
greeting guests and introducing her friends and family to the bride and her
family. Traditionally she stands between the bride and her
mother. If the fathers of the couple choose to stand in the line, she will
stand between them.
Mother of the Bride
The Primary responsibility of the Mother of
the Bride is to see that the bride's wishes are carried out the bride's way.
It will be your responsibility to help the bride plan here wedding her way�not
yours, unless, it is the true desire of the bride to "let mom run
things." primary responsibilities:
Help the bride select her
wedding attire. Remember, this is not your wedding. If you find
yourself talking the bride out of a gown she loves, you may be overreaching.
Help the bride and groom decide
on a wedding budget. Settling money issues upfront is always best.
A good clear budget will help everyone with their expectations.
In the event that the Mother of
the Groom does not contact you, you will make the first contact.
See that the guest lists are put
together. The invitations must be ordered as soon as possible, and the
guest list will be critical in making your invitation order.
Reservations for out-of-town
guests, invited by the bride's family, are the responsibility of the mother
of the bride. It will be much more convenient if a block of rooms are
reserved at a nearby hotel, which is near her home.
Choose your gown for the wedding
day. Immediately tell the Mother of the Groom the colors and style so
that she may begin looking for a complimentary gown. Send a swatch of
material to the Mother of Groom if possible.
See that instructions for the
actual ceremony are given. This includes the seating schedule and the
receiving line at reception, as well as any special touches the bride may
choose to have at her wedding.
The role as mother of the
bride, in the ceremony, may include lighting the family candle on the altar,
along with the mother of the groom. Family candles are lit after the
candle lighters have left the altar area, and prior to the entrance of the
Find a trusted friend or family
member who is not in the wedding party to assist you throughout the wedding. You
are the hostess for the entire event! Find someone who will help you
with some of the details�sometimes a professional is best.
The Wedding Invitation
Helpful hints and examples.
Wedding Invitation Wording
Writing Thank You Cards
A personal thank you is the only appropriate
way to say "Thank You!" At one time, notes were not considered
necessary when you thanked someone in person. Today, with guest lists being
longer and guests busier, a personal note is the only way to make sure sincere
appreciation is expressed. Just telling someone who has given you a gift, how
much you appreciate it, does not "cut the cake!".
The Wedding Dance
Dancing at your reception is a lovely way
to bring an air of elegance and family togetherness. Traditionally, the
bride and groom will be the first to dance as their special song is played
softly. Lights dimmed low create a romantic atmosphere.
As the music continues to play, the
father of the bride will cut in on the groom and dance with his daughter. The
groom asks the bride's mother to join him in a dance and together they grace the
The groom's father then cuts in on
the bride's father and dances with the bride himself. The bride's father will
then cut in on the groom and dance with his wife.
The groom will then ask his mother
to dance. Following this, the parents exchange dances with the other couple.
The best man then comes out to ask
the bride to dance and the groom will dance with the maid or matron of honor.
Finally, the entire wedding party, ushers and bridesmaids join in the
festivities. Once the entire bridal party and their parents are on the dance
floor, the other guests are invited to dance.
The "money dance"
originated as a custom in Poland, and is a popular tradition found celebrated in
the weddings of today. It takes place sometime after the first dance and is
usually announced by the DJ. It is customary for the best man to begin dancing
with the bride, pinning money onto her gown or putting it into a satin bag
carried by the bride, especially for the money dance. A newer rendition of
this money dance includes bridesmaids and other ladies dancing with the groom,
pinning money on his lapel.
Calling the Wedding Off
You have heard it said on more than one
occasion, "better a broken engagement today, than a broken home
tomorrow." At some point during wedding planning, many couples have normal
doubts and last minute jitters. After all, it is only natural. The importance of
choosing a mate cannot be over emphasized. There are few decisions in life
so important and of such lasting consequence.
A broken engagement is painful for
everyone involved. If the engagement has not been formally announced, the
word can be simply passed to a few friends who will tell other people.
When passing along such sensitive information, it is important to maintain the
privacy of those involved.
If the engagement has been announced
in the papers, a brief announcement to the effect that it is now broken is in
order. The announcement should read something to the effect:
Mr. and Mrs. Ronald C. Smith announce that
the engagement of their daughter
Kristine Marie and Mr. Kevin Allen White
has been ended by mutual consent.
If the wedding invitations have been
sent, a printed announcement is the proper way to make the broken engagement
known. However, if the engagement is broken only a few days prior to the
wedding, the news must be passed around as quickly as possible. To do
this, the family may have to resort to the telephone, as well as printed
announcements. Suggested wording for the announcement:
Mr. and Mrs. Ronald C. Philips
announce that the marriage of their daughter
Kristine Marie to
Mr. Kevin Allen White
will not take place.
Occasionally, there may be reason to
postpone a wedding due to a death in the family or serious illness. In the case
of a postponement, it is important all guests be notified as soon as possible.
Remember, some guests may have plane reservations to cancel and reschedule.
In the event of a postponement, an explanation is proper, whereas in the case of
an outright cancellation, no explanation is given. If time permits, formal
announcements may be printed, however, handwritten notes are also appropriate.
Suggested wording for a notice of postponement may read as follows:
Mr. and Mrs. Ronald C. Smith
Regret that they are obliged to recall
The invitations to the marriage of their daughter
Kristine Marie to Mr. Kevin Allen White
Due to the death of Mr. White's father
James Edward White
If the wedding is still to take
place, the following can also be added to the above announcement:
The ceremony will be held privately
In the presence of the immediate family
The occasion may also arise when the
invitations to a reception must be recalled. The following wording is
appropriate in the instance where the ceremony will take place, but not the
Mr. and Mrs. Ronald C. Smith
Regret that owing to a death in the family
They are obligated to recall the invitations
To the marriage reception of their daughter
On Saturday, the first day of October
Nineteen hundred and Ninety eight
The marriage ceremony will take place
As originally planned
the celebration begins is when you start the party planning.
Wedding Ring for Bride
Wedding Ring for Groom
Wedding Gift for Groom
Wedding Gift for Bride
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